There are definitely a lot of guides on spankings - both online and in print.
But for the most part, there are only so many tips - spanking isn’t rocket science. What seems to be an issue in your situation is that your boyfriend is still very new and is just starting to develop his confidence in this activity - and that he doesn’t yet understand the psychology of everything very well yet. Some general non-spanking specific BDSM literature might help, here is something of a classic:
Really, I think that as long as you keep communicating and practicing, this situation will mostly fix itself. Keep nudging him when he gets stuck in a rut, communicating about what makes you feel happy, rewarding him for spreading his dom wings, etc - and he’ll naturally grow more comfortable and more experimental. Like bottoms, tops each have their own pace with this stuff, and pushing too hard or too fast can be counter productive. But with patience, good faith, and reward/reinforcement they can really blossom. I know that makes it sound like you’re training your top… but well that’s how it is sometimes at first :)
Something you can try is introducing implements into the mix, they sort of force a variety in sensation simply through feeling nothing like hands.
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Anonymous asked: What's the difference between a d/s relationship amd a dd/lg relationship?
In a DaddyDom/littlegirl relationship you are often allowed to be a brat, and get away with minor, or sometimes major, mischievous behavior, if you know how to work your Daddy just right ofcourse. The little girl behaves like a little girl in every single way, and has all the mental dynamics of a little girl. The Daddy is there to love, protect, and support his little girl in every single way no matter how badly she behaves or how big a tantrum she throws.
Dominant/Sub relationship is when the sub completely surrenders their control to their master and obey their rules within the limits they set. If a sub breaks those rules then they receive punishment from their Dominant.
In both situations they do, however, share something similar. Both have to be consenting adults. Must know before hand what they are getting into before initiating such a relationship. And they must respect and love one another.
Wrong, wrong ,wrong.
Littles aren’t at all supposed to walk all over their Daddy Dom.
The Little is the submissive and under no circumstance should a Little try to manipulate,act out,throw fits, or “work” her Dom.
If she should misbehave ,punishment is at the Daddys discretion and should only be to help correct the issue and build character.
She should be on her best behavior at all times . With the Daddy Dom being in place to guide, nurture, protect, and help her succeed at life in general.
This person sounds just like a manipulative , selfish , sociopath. Trying to justify how she takes advantage of men, by giving it a cute title.
In no way is her description of dd/lg relationship correct , in my opinion.
People like this make me sick and are misguiding people with uninformed , worthless information.
Someone is VERY misinformed about DD/lg. (OP not justsayajinlittle)
In a Daddy Dom/ Little girl relationship it is defined by those who are in the relationship. While I don’t mind when my little is bratty sometimes because I understand. I will not allow her to “work me” That is not DD/lg as justsay said that’s a manipulative thing. If she misbehaves she will be punished The bigger the tantrum the bigger the punishment. Misbehaving is NOT okay. Being a bit bratty is cute. Blatent breaking of the rules is not okay. Because DD/lg is a subsection of BDSM.
And not all littles in a DD/lg relationship have the “mental dynamics of a little girl” I have met many submissives who simply have little tendencies.I’ve met some littles who have a preteen/teen mindset when they’re in that headspace. The OP to me has NO idea what DD/lg is.
justsayajinlittle was correct in my opinion.
Agreeing with the last two replies here. justsayajinlittle and southerndom said it very well. A little IS a submissive. And DD/lg has the same bottom line as D/s, the power exchange. What OP describes is just manipulative. I hate that so many people think that DD/lg is about being allowed to be a brat and disobey. A little is supposed to be submissive to her daddy and try her best to obey him and her rules. How far this submission goes depends on the couple. But what OP describes is just manipulative and not D/s or DD/lg at all.
"Dominant/Sub relationsip is when the sub completely surrenders their control to their master and obey their rules within the limits they set. If a sub breaks those then they receive punishment from their dominant."
(Aside from “completely surrender their control” Since thats a TPE) this is the bottom line of ANY D/s relationship. And you know what’s a type of D/s relationship? DD/lg.
(And again, the couple decides their dynamic, even dominant/switch littles exist, but OP’s idea of this dynamic is just wrong in so many ways.)